Use this checklist to take control, protect yourself, and navigate your divorce with confidence.
Documentation & Evidence
- Start documenting all interactions and incidents (emails, texts, calls).
- Keep a detailed journal with dates, times, and witnesses.
- Set up a separate, secure email account for divorce matters.
- Collect and secure all financial records (bank statements, tax returns, etc.).
Legal Protection
- Hire an attorney experienced in high-conflict divorces.
- File for temporary orders to establish boundaries.
- Ensure all communication goes through your attorney.
Financial Security
- Open individual bank and credit card accounts.
- Monitor your credit report regularly.
- Create a detailed inventory of all marital assets and debts.
- Set aside an emergency fund in a secure account.
Emotional Well-Being
- Build a strong support network (friends, family, therapist, coach).
- Practice the “Gray Rock” method in communications.
- Set clear boundaries and stick to them.
- Prioritize self-care activities (exercise, journaling, meditation).
Digital Security
- Change all passwords for personal accounts.
- Enable two-factor authentication on all important accounts.
- Review and adjust social media privacy settings.
- Create new, secure accounts for sensitive communications.
Co-Parenting (If Applicable)
- Document all parenting time and child-related expenses.
- Request a custody evaluation if you have concerns.
- Develop a parallel parenting plan.
- Use court-approved co-parenting apps (OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents).
Professional Support Team
- Divorce Attorney (high-conflict specialist)
- Divorce Coach
- Therapist
- Financial Advisor
- Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) – if needed
Safety & Privacy
- Create a personal safety plan if needed.
- Set up a P.O. Box for private mail.
- Consider security measures at your residence.
- Inform trusted colleagues if your situation may impact work.
Next Steps:
- If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and start moving forward with clarity and confidence, I invite you to a Complimentary Divorce Clarity Call.
- Implement systems for tracking communication and finances.
- Prioritize emotional and financial stability.
- Establish clear communication protocols.
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